Since the hubby has been in Rhode Island for the past 3 weeks I've come to realize it's time for a little refresher for us. I'm not saying give him a hall pass ( even though it was a funny movie) I just think after 4 years together, marriage, baby and military life things between us have been put on the back burner.
So, I want to get back to us. I think since he's been deployed every 3 months he thinks that gifts and material items are what keep me happy. Don't get me wrong I love gifts, just as much as the next girl but I love attention and respect more than material things. Sorry Madona I am not a material girl..all the time..haha..But I think I'm going to invest in a book my sister told me about called The 5 Languages of Love by Gary Chapman.
She told me how it changed her relationship with her man and how they can better communicate with each other. The book talks about how there's 5 different types of love, and I went to the website and did the test and it was a real eye opener. Something's I don't think my husband knows about me because he percieves me to be a different type of love language. Which is why I am investing in this book. I think in a normal life communication between a husband and wife gets lost sometimes, but even more so for a military couple cause their gone more and sometimes we can't communicate at all because he's not allowed to. My husband cousin Angie told me at my baby shower ALWAYS:
1.) Put God first
2.) Put your Marriage at the top
3.) Love your kids
When I think of our communication I think of that day and how she's right. I love our daughter but before her it was just US and to keep US we need to put US at the top. So what do we plan to do? Read this book together to see how we can better communicate with each other.
Then, go on a vacation..JUST US.. Kind of like a couples retreat minus all crazy drama and not as witty as the movie, but definitely to have a good time and bang bang pow pow! hehe
